7 Things to Never Say To Someone

Hello my sweets. I hope you all had a lovely week and are as excited as I am for the weekend.

Today’s post is inspired by a conversation that I was having with a good friend of mine. We were talking about how, unfortunately, as we grow up a lot of what people say to us shape our lives in some way – big or small. Words are powerful. I’ve always believed that. Here are some things that I think you should never say to anyone.

“I’m not being rude, but..”

Let’s just get this one out of the way. Every time I’ve heard this phrase, 99.9% of the time it’s followed by something rude. It would almost be less offensive if you just said the rude thing, without having to preface it. Now, I am an advocate for sharing your emotions and confronting someone about how you feel, but you do have a filter, you can read a room, read a situation and know when to say what. Never preface something rude with that. Or better, just try not to say something rude at all.

“You’re too thin/round/muscular/lanky/fat/ or anything else you think you have to say about someone else body”

I can’t even believe that I have to write this. This should be a no brainer. Keep your mouth shut if you feel you have to comment on someone else’s lifestyle, body unless they ask you. Even if they ask you, let’s go back to the whole internal filter thing, you have one – don’t just rattle off things that can come across as insensitive. Be kind, think before you speak and don’t comment one anyone’s physical appearance.

“You can’t do it, let me”

I’ve had this said to me multiple times before, and I can assure you the only thing that you think of when someone says this to you is “they think i’m not capable enough, they think I’m stupid” I don’t know about you but I never want to ever make someone feel that way. So even if you know you can do something, quicker, or faster, don’t take away the opportunity for someone to learn.

“So how much do you make”

I can’t believe the amount of people I have come across who have asked me this question. I don’t think this is ever okay to ask, if and when you feel an urge to ask this, I do think there’s a more respectful way to do so. Honestly, if I were you, I just wouldn’t I don’t think that any of your business.

“Are you pregnant”

I made the mistake of asking my grade 4 teacher this, I guess it was half a mistake because she actually was pregnant, but I remember coming home and telling my mom and she got mad at me for being insensitive..even if I was 9 she made it clear it was never okay to ask that. Again, unless this is your sister or a very very close family friend it’s never okay to ask this.

“When are you having more babies”

AGAIN. None of your business. You have no idea what their health conditions are, you have no idea if they can even have more kids, let alone if they want more kids. Why would anyone ever think this is okay to ask anyone. It’s hurtful and can be a trigger for so many women who might not be able to conceive again.

“If you really loved me you would ________”

This is to all my people in relationships, or really close friendships. Giving someone an ultimatum is never okay. You should never have to say to someone “if you love me, you’ll do this that or the other”. If you’re with someone who does this in a non-joking way MOST OF THE TIME. Leave them, it’s not okay and not worth it to be with someone who makes you feel like your love is something that comes with a price.

I hope you enjoyed this post. I hope something on here got you thinking. Let me know if there’s a phrase that you have been taught to not say to someone?

As always I hope you are all well, safe and healthy. Sending all my love always

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8 thoughts on “7 Things to Never Say To Someone

  1. This is so important! Number 2, 3, 5, 6 & 7 especially (though totally they all are) but yes yes yes!! Great post thanks for sharing hun! Very thought provoking I hope some people learn from this, and this is a great lesson and reminder! Thank you ❤️

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  2. Great post!! Im honestly shocked people dont see this as common sense .. i mean im just able to put nyself in someones shoes and i know i wouldn’t want anyone to treat me this way so i wouldnt do it to anyone else.. lovely reminder!

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  3. I totally agree with all of these! I don’t know why people think saying “I’m not being rude…” will automatically make their statement less rude. It kind of reminds me of when people say “I’m not trying to be racist…” and then say something extremely racist and are shocked when someone is offended by what they said.

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  4. Totally agree with you! I’ve heard the “oooh you’re still so thin” so many times and I just feel horrible every time someone says that to me! 😭 The last one is so so true, it’s so manipulative!

    Though I slightly disagree with you about the “how much do you make”! Most of the time it’s really not okay, like dropping this in a conversation or something like that, it’s just none of your business and is super rude to ask 😞. But I remember when I was really close to my graduation, and I was reaching out to some professionals, asking them about their job in certain places, it would’ve really helped me if there wasn’t such a taboo about money! Great post, Xandria!! 😘

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  5. I agree with these 100% the “you can’t do it, let me” is so irritating! I always get so offended when people say that because most of the time it’s something I’m totally capable of. I know most of the time they don’t mean to be offensive but it’s still kinda insulting

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  6. Great post Xandria! I totally agree with you, these are sooo important, especially when a judgment of any kind underlies the question! Thanks for sharing and bringing attention to some of these points! 😊


  7. I think you’re been very realistic in this article Xandria and a lot if people actually get away with these things. I particularly hate the one about body weight but I’d like to ask, how can I politely ask what someone’s earning? Especially if I’m also trying to get into his profession.


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